Monthly Archives: February 2015

Weariness in the Wilderness

Confession 1.2

We’re about a week into Lent already, one of my favorite times of the church year.

This year feels different for me.

Normally, have some sense of anticipation about reengaging some of the disciplines of my spiritual life that may have gotten a little rusty or fallen into disuse. A day a week of fasting has been my practice for years and years and years. Experience has taught me to prepare mentally, physically, and emotionally for the ramped up activity and responsibilities during Lent. I know that by the time Easter arrives, I will be tired — a deeply satisfying weariness that says I have led a people through the wilderness of Lent to the promised paschal feast.

This year I enter the season weary, but it’s not a satisfying weariness. It feels more like the beginning of a long slog. It’s like that time on the backpacking trip when you need to get through the next two miles of mud in order to start ascending the hill that will take you to the lakeside campsite that is the goal of the day’s hike.

Part of it is the time of transition that our congregation’s ministry. It has meant longer days and more responsibilities. And while I’m mostly energized by that transition, hopeful for the new thing that will emerge, there are also times and days when it feels like I’m a compatriot of Sisyphus, pushing that proverbial stone up a hill. I have heard that the effort of birthing is exhausting.

That’s where I am this year. Feeling like the effort of birthing is exhausting. In the background is the hope that comes from the promises of the same God who made astonishing promises to Abraham. And in the foreground is the difficulty of seeing how those promises will be made concrete. I feel the weariness of exile when the promised return to The Land has little to hang on to.

On Sunday, the sermon was proclaimed by one of our staff members who doesn’t preach very often. She said a few things that have stuck in my gullet the past few days. First, she invited us to embrace the wilderness as a gift. Is it possible for me to see these days of weariness as the necessary gestation period for what is to be born?

The other thing she said is how willing we are to let distractions keep us from actually engaging God in the wilderness. There are so many important things to do!

I feel the weight of distractions, especially the distraction of important things that must get done.

Which leads me to believe it’s time to get off this computer and sit in the quiet of the wilderness. To listen for the voice of the One who has called me and who has promised to love me and who has promised never to leave me. Even in the weariness of the wilderness.

Making Space

Screen Shot 2015-02-05 at 8.36.36 AMDoes it require more than just the disposition to live the Christian life?  What happens if we have the desire and the intention, but not the space?

Social psychology talks about two difference classes of explanations for why people do what they do — dispositional and situational. The dispositional explanation relies on the fact that people are who they are; they have certain traits that at least in part, govern how they behave. Situational explanations recognize that certain circumstances in the moment contribute to a response and can override dispositional traits.

In his book, , Daniel Levitan recounts a famous study whose subjects were divinity students at Princeton Theological Seminary. The subjects were asked to come to an office to provide their opinions of “religious education and vocations.” After completing a questionnaire, the interviewer explained that the instrument they had just completed was a bit simplistic and that the second part of the interview would be a three to five minute recorded response to a reading they would be given. One group was given a reading on whether ministering is possible anymore; the other was given the Parable of the Good Samaritan. Here’s where it gets interesting. Half of each group was told they needed to hurry because the assistant in the next building over had expected them a few minutes earlier. The other half were told, “It’ll be a few minutes before they’re ready for you, but you might as well head over.”

Between the two buildings the experimenters had placed a research assistant sitting slumped in a doorway in obvious need of medical attention. When each student passed by, the confederate coughed and groaned.

What happened? The students who were in a hurry were six times more likely to keep on walking and pass by the visibly injured person without helping than the students who had plenty of time. Even the ones who had just read the Parable of the Good Samaritan!

I know this experiment is not about the spiritual life, so I’m not going to suggest any scientific conclusions about the life of faith. But it does prompt some reflections.

What we believe about the life of faith is that the Holy Spirit, at work in us, continually shapes and molds us into the mind and life of Christ. With the daily remembrance of our baptism, we are called to daily conversion, leaving the old incurved life behind and embracing the life of service to the neighbor.

But what happens when we don’t make space for that? What happens when our lives are so full of tasks and self-satisfying external stimulation that we don’t even notice the injured one at the side of the road or the groaning student in the doorway. What I see around me (and also in the mirror!) are people who are working way too much, spending way too much time on devices and entertainment, carting kids around to a hundred different activities. When it’s all over, we collapse into bed exhausted, only to get up and start the same thing over again six hours later. Who can blame folks if they aren’t coming to church as often as folks did 30 years ago? Maybe Sunday morning is the only time in the week they don’t have to run off to something else — unless it’s a little league sports event.

No wonder the church is anemic in it’s mission. We members of the Body have filled our lives with so many things. The situation overrides the disposition. The slow work of paying attention to what’s going on around us, noticing the opportunities to be kind or helpful, stopping to listen deeply to someone, and caring for creation has become get pushed to the edges. There is no space anymore to live the Christian life.

Which makes me wonder. Maybe the priest and Levite in the Parable of the Good Samaritan were not the callous, uncaring, cold-hearted characters we have portrayed them to be. Maybe they were just on their way to an important meeting, a few minutes late.

“Together” x 5; Building a Strong and Healthy Church Staff

staffI’ve gotten the news in the past few weeks that a handful of my younger (much younger!!) pastoral colleagues are moving from their calls as associate pastors in a multi-staff setting to head of staff. The news brought to mind my own similar move 22 years ago.  It also got me to thinking: in the intervening years, what are the most important lessons I’ve learned about cultivating a healthy and productive staff team?

1.  Pray together.  Worship is at the heart of what we do as God’s people. At God’s invitation, we gather each week in the Sunday assembly to receive God’s gifts and to be sent into the world to live as God’s people and to be a part of God’s mission. But Sunday is not the only time for worship. Throughout the centuries, local assemblies have gathered for daily prayer, hearing the word, singing, and praying, keeping the cycle of prayer going around the world as the earth rotates in its 24 hour cycle. As a staff, we are a part of that ongoing rotation of prayer. Once a day, Monday through Thursday, everyone in the building gathers for a 15 minute service in which we sing, listen to the Word, share a reflection, and pray. Sometimes members of the congregation join us — we publicize daily prayer on our weekly calendar — but mostly it’s just members of the staff. In addition to being a part of the the larger church in our calling to prayer, praying together daily is a powerful means to staff cohesiveness. It’s hard to stay in conflict with the ones with whom we gather each day in prayer.

2.  Meet together.  There’s no substitute for meeting together. We meet together once a week. Every paid employee is attends our staff meeting. All church work is relational work, and to be in relationship, there must be time together.

Staff meetings are about more than just business. Years ago, I learned from a great mentor, Les Stroh, a model that comes from the world of organizational behavior; it’s known as the Task Team Development model.  Teams that are high functioning in terms of their task get that way because they also pay attention to the relational aspect of their team. Often work groups focus only on task, never achieving a high function because they never develop relationships of trust. Other groups only pay attention to their relationship and they never get anything done; they are essentially lifestyle groups of people who hold similar interests. The Task Team Development model suggests that working teams that pay attention to developing relationships of trust will become high functioning teams with regard to task.

To that end, our staff meetings always include an element of conversation that invites us to share something about ourselves apart from our work. We have a question for conversation in which each member of the staff is invited to share. Some examples: talk about a Christmas tradition from your childhood. Talk about a book or movie that you read or saw recently and what you liked about it. One of the most popular is the kindergarten game of show and tell. Each person brings something from home that is significant to them, tells the rest of us about it, and why it is significant. In addition to this relational time at the beginning of our meeting, every week’s agenda includes “Ministry Stories,” a time when we encourage staff to tell the times and places where they saw God at work in our ministry in the past week. Oh, and leadership of the staff meeting rotates each week. Everyone gets to practice being a leader.

3.  Read and study together. It’s important for pastors to continue to grow intellectually and vocationally. And I think it’s important for pastors to model that virtue for the congregation and for the staff. To that end, our staff reads together and talks about what we have read. Think in terms of a staff book club. I usually choose the book, though I have used suggestions from staff members. We meet every three weeks or so. We have shared the task of leading the discussion. Sometimes it’s a book of pretty serious theology — we’re just finishing Walter Brueggemann’s The Prophetic Imagination; a few years ago, we read one of Chip and Dan Heath’s books. The point is, it may or may not be anything directly connected to theology; it is always something that we can grow together with.

4.  Have fun together.  There’s just something irreplaceable about laughing and let our hair down together. Twice a year, we have day-long staff retreats. One is some kind of serious continuing education thing. And one is just plain fun. One of the best was the year we went to the Field Museum in downtown Chicago. It’s one of the premier natural history museums in the country. But instead of just walking around the museum, I formed the staff into two teams and asked them to come up with a story, using themselves as the characters, based on what they saw in the exhibits. Imagine “Night at the Museum,” but the characters are people you know and work with. Over lunch, we shared our stories and howled with laughter. We have taken architectural tours of downtown Chicago, rode through the city on a 50 year old fire truck, and drove to Springfield to experience the Lincoln Museum together. The staff that plays together stays together.

5.  Break bread together.  A long-standing tradition in the congregation I serve is for the staff to go out to a local restaurant once a week and have lunch together. It’s always dutch treat, except when we’re celebrating a birthday. When it’s someone’s birthday week, they do not pay for their lunch and the rest of us split the bill equally. There’s never any requirement that anyone does this, but over the years, every staff member makes it a priority to be a part of this weekly gathering to break bread together away from the work place.

Two other things: don’t neglect the secretaries and custodians. The secretaries and custodians are essential to a fruitful ministry. Someone once said that God is in the details; these are the people who take care of the details. They typically hold an immense amount of institutional memory, and are often the first contact that members and folks from the community make with the church. You need their expertise and you need them to be on your side. While they may not be seminary trained or in some cases even college trained, they have an incredible storehouse of practical wisdom that will contribute immensely to good ministry. Pay attention to them.

Say thank you. In every way you can, say thank you. Write notes; compliment your staff to members of the parish; acknowledge them publicly. When they do something good, tell them specifically. In fact, we’ve institutionalized this public recognition in our staff meetings. The very last item on every staff meeting agenda is an item we call “Blessings.” It gives everyone a chance to publicly recognize the good work that someone else on the staff has done in the past week. And it’s a great way to end a meeting.

What have you discovered that contributes to the well-being and productivity of your staff?